My wife and I got married in 2011. We had admittedly wondered if anyone we’d meet during and on the journey toward that glorious day would act any differently then they would with a straight couple. They didn’t. From the bakery that made the wedding cake, the justice clerk, employees of the venue where we held our reception or the hotel where we later went for our honeymoon getaway, everyone was friendly and professional. No big deal, for them anyway.
And it shouldn’t be.
To be treated like this on the day of all days should not depend on luck or be a privilege—it should be for everyone. Those who argue against laws that make the world more equal often argue that not all are ready for those changes. You know what? It doesn’t matter. There will always be some who aren’t ready, and we can’t afford to wait for them, because in the meantime, lives are on the line.
Not all hearts and minds can be changed right away through a law, granted, but legal security impacts the lives of many who will be able to live more authentic lives, and become more visible. This is where protections in housing and employment must come in—it makes no sense that someone is able to marry the love of their life and then gets fired the next day. Authenticity and visibility will expose the demand for a more diverse world in fiction, and in return, fictional characters help increase those. It’s refreshing to see that the last 5-10 years of TV brought more LGBT characters into viewers’ lives and helped others to come out. We need more of this, more characters to identify with, more happy endings, and in the long run, the change will manifest itself.
Homophobia, biphobia and transphobia come from extremely rigid and misogynist views on gender, and we need to address this connection in order to make this change last. Marriage equality is a great and important step toward that goal. Our allies have always understood that what we have in common is the desire for a permanent, loving commitment between equal partners, and that we’re not taking anything from them.
Love can’t wait any longer.
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For my giveaway, I offer 2 ebooks, winner’s choice (All have lesbian main characters. You can check them out under the book tab here on this blog). Just leave a comment to enter, and an email address so I can contact you in case you won.
and more...The hop ends May 24th late, so winners will be notified on the 25th. Thank you!
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It always makes me happy to see lesbian fiction coming out. I think, as a genre, it's lagging behind M/M fiction (I suppose in readership and publication rate) and I'm eagerly awaiting the time I can find as many F/F books as M/M.
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We can always use more fiction about women who love women. Best of luck with your new books!
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